Dec 23, 2020
In this episode Matt is reflecting on the lessons learnt and
sharing 13 top tips on how to have your most successful year ever
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The 13 steps to your most successful year ever are:
- Have a clear vision of where you want to go
and who you want to be. How do you look? How do you talk and walk?
What impact do you have when you walk into a room? How do you make
other people feel? What are your relationships like? Be intentional
about all of this stuff and do what works for you. You might want a
vision board on your wall that you look at every day or perhaps a
file on your laptop. Be specific. Be clear. Know where you want to
- Drop your ego. Don’t allow other people’s
opinions dictate what you do next. If you know in your heart you're
a good person, doing things with good intentions and are learning,
developing and growing all the time. Then that’s the main thing to
focus on. Understanding that people are only judging you based on
their own dilemas, circumstances and their own ego it gives you
freedom and peace to let it go. Not everybody is going to like you.
But become ok with that. You don’t need approval from
- Health and nutrition – geting enough sleep is
so important. Being fit, keeping your bodyfat down. Workout 3 – 5
times every week. Make sure you schedule it in so you don’t miss!
Nutrition – unless you’re going for an extreme short time goal,
allow yourself treats and enjoy your life. They don’t serve you
long time. And they do hurt you. But know that the majority of the
time you’re consistently eating really healthy and working out so
you can fully enjoy that cheat meal. Having the couple of cheat
meals per week may be the thing that helps keep you on track and
not feeling like your diet is dull, hard work and too extreme.
Track what you’re doing. The main thing is if you want to keep your
bodyfat down, you need to make sure you’re in a calore deficit each
week. So as long as over the 7 days you’re calories are no higher
than the week before, you will maintain your current weight. If you
are in a calorie deficit, i.e eat slightly less calories over the
week then over time you’ll be losing bodyfat. Take the
responsibility to be in control of you health. Be specific. Track.
Know where you are at
- Have a routine for success – sometimes it
won’t go to plan so be good at adapting and come back to the
routine when you can do again!
- Make time for mindfulness and self care. Make
time for you and for your thoughts. You can’t be the best mother,
father, friend, partner, sibling that you want to be if your mental
health is suffering. If you’re stressed, reactive, have anxiety,
feel low. You must become selfish in order to become selfless. You
will only serve others well if you feel amazing about you first.
And this can be different for everyone.
- Surround yourself with the right team. Jim
Rohm said You're The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most
Time With. When it comes to relationships, we a greatly influenced,
whether we like it or not, by those closest to us. They effect our
self esteem, our way of thinking and our decisions. Find the right
people that inspire you, that motivate you and that encourage you
to be better. Lose people from your life that are energy drainers,
negative talkers, that put you down, that lack ambition and passion
and the people that ultimately cause you to stand still. It can be
the hardest thing for some people. Especially if you’ve had friends
for over 30 years. But believe me, if you want to take your life to
the next level. If you want to become the best version of yourself.
Then who you spend your time with is a huge factor in your chances
of success with this.
- Be accountable. If you say you’re going to
write a book in the next 60 days, or lose body fat or run a
marathon, but you don’t tell anybody the chances of you achieving
that goal are much lower. So find friends to tell your goals to and
ask them to keep you accountable. Or if you don’t have people you
feel you want to tell, come join our accountability group and we’ll
do it. But become accountable to somebody to help you stay on
- Get a coach or a mentor. Find somebody who’s
already like what you want to be like or done the things you want
to achieve. Somebody who’s already a couple of steps above. Its
much harder to get somewhere alone. All athletes and sports teams
have coaches. All good actors have mentors. All good singers have
singing coaches. So if you want to do anything well – build a
business, get fitter, become a more positive person, have better
relationships, you need a coach.
- Be grateful but keep moving forward. Take time
every day to be grateful for what you already have. Its so easy to
get caught up on wishing and striving for more. But its incredibly
powerful when you take a moment to be thankful for everything you
already have. Even the smallest things. Don’t take anything for
granted. But equally don’t allow yourself to be so grateful that
you stand still.
- Give back now. Giving back doesn’t have
to cost anything. Maybe participate in 1 charity event per month.
Volunteer or even just do something for a family member in need.
Don’t think that once you become a multi millionaire you’ll
suddenly have loads of spare time and cash and become really
charitable. It starts with who you are today and giving back now.
And selfishly you’ll actually feel really good. Its one of the best
feelings in the world when you help somebody else. So its a real
win win scnerio!
- Forgive everyone including yourself. Holding
onto hate and negative emotions will only hurt yourself and your
progress. You need to figure out how to let it go. Its not about
allowing them to do it again. It’s not setting them free and saying
what they did to you is ok. By all means remove the toxic people
from your life and never speak to them again. But its about setting
yourself free from any negativity and bitterness so you can move on
with your head held high. It’s about being the bigger person and
forgiving them for your own wellbeing and your own peace of mind.
Being compassionate and have perspective on why it happened and who
they are as a person. Look for the lessons that person hurting you
have taught you. Be grateful for how its made you stronger and
wiser moving forward. Don’t hold on to pain you’re your past.
Also forgive yourself. You’re learning all the time and that
will mean you make mistakes. As long as you are intentional about
learning from them and not repeating the same mistakes then you’re
good. Go easy on yourself and love yourself warts and all.
- Have more fun! Those spontaneous trips
away or picnics, or walks in the park. Times to be silly and laugh
and play. Life is very short and we don’t know when our last day
will be. So make sure you find the time to have fun along the way.
Laugh more. Love more. Enjoy life more. Don’t take everything too
seriously. Laugh at yourself. Go on adventures. Try new things. And
bring fun to other peoples lives too. Cheer people up. Be silly.
I’m not saying it’s not important to work hard and stay focused
when necessary. But make sure you’re enjoying the process.
- Pursue your dreams. Sound obvious, but so many
people go through life without ever fully committed to going after
their main desires. So many people settle for what they think they
have to. They settle with an ok job that they don’t mind and
sometimes even like. But they don’t love. They settle for a
relationship they’re not fulfilled with because they don’t believe
they can attract any better, or because its safe or because
breaking up would cause too much stress and heartbreak especially
if children are involved. But we only get one life. People say it
is the journey and not the destination. But if you are on a journey
of settling for second best, you are on a journey of misery,
depression and fulfilment. Don’t allow that to be your path. Take
action now. The fact you were even born is incredible. The odds are
totally against you and so the chance of you being born a human
being in at this time where opportunities are everywhere are almost
a miracle. Are you really going to waste that opportunity? Are you
really going to just settle for less than you know you’re capable
of? Be brave and be bold. Make those difficult, scary decisions
that you know are for the greater good. Be prepared to get knock
backs and to fail and potential go backwards to move forwards. Care
less what others think and do what’s best for you. Because
otherwise you run the risk of coming to the end of your life filled
with regret that you never tried those things and you didn’t give
it your very best show. We are all very blessed and lucky to be
alive today. Pursue your wildest dreams. Experience adventures.
Work hard on the things you care about. Love deeply. Be passionate.
Be inspirational. Be whoever you want to be. And don’t let anybody
stop you. This is where the magic of life happens.
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